Tips for letting go of things in your life that are not good for you
July 21, 2016

I’m working through a season of drastic change and letting go in my life. I’m finally letting go of the frustration of unhealthy relationships, overwhelming projects, and emotions of anger, disappointment, and stress from giving too much of myself to people and situations that are not good for me.


Let’s talk about letting go. It’s one thing to talk about it but doing it takes strength and persistence. You don’t necessarily need to be ready to do it either. If you keep telling yourself that you’re not ready to let go, that’s just an excuse and I would urge you to stop making excuses and delaying your success. I think that often times we know when we need to let go but we delay the process by talking ourselves out of it until something drastic comes along and shakes us up to the point that letting go becomes essential to our wellbeing. Have some faith.


“If you have to force it, leave it. Relationships- friendships- yoga poses- perfect pony tails- let that sh!t go.” –unknown quote


Letting go can be hard so I’ve got some helpful tips for you!


Tip #1 – Know when to let go.


If you don’t know when to let go of relationships, talk to your family and friends. If the majority of your family and friends tell you that someone is no good for you, I’d recommend listening. If you don’t know when to let go of projects that overwhelm you, think about your why. Why are you doing the project in the first place? Is there a way to work smarter instead of harder? Identify how you feel when you’re around certain people or working on a specific project. Protect your energy and most importantly, rely on your support network for guidance and support. Talk about it honestly. You need to know when to let go.


Tip #2 – Stop living in the past and embrace the present moment.


When you let go, you find peace. If you need to cry it out, cry. Channel your frustrations into positive energy. Help a friend, find a volunteering opportunity, or do something else you enjoy doing. Being productive helps. Many people use meditation to find peace in the present moment instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Don’t forget to recognize and celebrate your accomplishments too! Focus your energy on something that you can actually control instead of dwelling on things you can’t. You can’t control people or their actions. You do have the power to control your own destiny. Live intentionally. You were created to live a GREAT story! Live it.


Tip #3 – Change your perspective.


Focus on your blessings! Perspective is key. Keep a grateful heart and don’t let toxic relationships make you bitter. Your story will change as you grow through life. You should frequently evaluate what you tolerate. Would you want your son or daughter to tolerate what you tolerate? Sometimes putting the situation in a different perspective can help.


Tip #4 – Try something new!


Meet someone new. Learn a new skill. Find a new hobby. Start a new project. Get creative and create space for something or someone new in your life.


I would encourage you to let go of stress. Breathe through it and release anything that no longer serves your greater good. Get around good people. Replace your negative thoughts with positive ones. Take a break and unplug from time to time. Think about the future and whether what you’re stressing about right now is going to even matter to you in ten years. Research also shows that laughter sooths tension, improves the immune system, and could even ease pain. Laugh it out!


No matter what life throws at you, you’ve got to keep smiling.


Here’s a quote that helps me. I hope that when you’re having a difficult time letting go, you’ll remember it too.


“Loving myself means letting go.”


Tips for letting go of things in your life that are not good for you, by Shannon Stapleton.

Shannon Stapleton

Shannon Stapleton

With a background in marketing and design from DCTC, Shannon considers herself a lifelong learner. She makes investing in herself a priority and prides herself in helping others do the same. She thrives from surrounding herself with good people, good energy, doing good work, and giving back in the community.